I‘ve spent much time over the years brainstorming, making mind-maps, talking, dreaming and journaling about what I really wanted to do with my life. I was looking for that one thing. I still do sometimes, thinking it’s going to give me the green light to be myself out in the world. But it never does. And it wont. Because, as Rebecca Campbell says “your soul is always calling.” It won’t stop. Which is a blessing – it’s helping us to first get on track, and then to stay on track, towards being more in alignment with our ‘true selves.’ This is living authentically at it’s core and it broaches not just what we do in the world but who we are as people, our values, our ethics and integrity, how we show up in relationships and in the world in general.
I’m not saying you aren’t already truly you, of course you are. But in my experience, the true you can get covered over and obscured by many things. It might be the family we are born into, the society we live in, the school or university we went to, the beliefs and rules we have taken on that aren’t true for us. We hardly ever question these things, until perhaps we have an experience of something else – another way of living, a new way of interpreting the world around us, a different way of looking at things.
We can have everything going right for us – the job we thought we always wanted, the holiday we dreamed of, the partner by our side, investments, but there’s still a nagging feeling that something’s missing. Even the best health in the world will be wasted if we don’t feel satisfied with our lives.
So, how do we get more on track and stop the nagging feelings there’s more to life?
Your soul’s calling
I think of this uneasy feeling as my soul calling to me. It is calling through the energetic tendrils throughout time, connected to my ancestors, energy lines, other places I haven’t discovered yet.
I’ve sought out ways (and still am) in order to heed this calling. There’s still a way to go, and I expect it wont ever fully stop, but quiets down once I’m in the flow once again.
I love this excerpt from Rebecca Cambell’s book Light is the New Black:
‘It’s not actually about doing one big thing, or finding one single answer to the great big question: ‘What is my purpose?’ It’s doing hundreds and thousands of little things in that direction, one after the other.’
That is pure GOLD!
I’ve realised that following what I love and staying open to receiving new information, new influences, things that trigger a spark of excitement – are all clues leading me to a happier place within myself.
I also know (and it’s proven again and again by science) that being grateful everyday for what I already have is also very useful and leads to feeling happier which leads to being open to new possibilities and generally attractive more things in your life to be grateful about.
Finding things that light you up is crucial to living a life you love
A few of my favourite resources and tips are below. I’m sure you have your own and I’d love to hear about them in the comments below.
Get a coach / mentor / inspiring comrade
I’ve had some amazing input and guidance from mentors, inspiring authors, speakers and coaches. I wouldn’t be where I am today if it wasn’t for these people:
Amanda Helena (soulstrategies.com.au)
Holley dooley this lady blew my socks off in her Find your Calling workshop. I was lucky enough to do this in person but she has an online version coming out soon. This lady brings the perfect balance of scientific grounding and soul inspired wisdom. She has collected golden nuggets that help discover what your calling is. She’s my kinda coach.
Lisa has been a massive supporter of me and my fledging business Natureglow. She helped me formulate ideas and mostly just believed in me and what I could offer. Her genius is helping women step into their own unique genius zone and create businesses they love.
Krista Jane Smith aka KJ
An incredible inspiration for me. I have attended two of Krista’s retreats in Bali with the first being ridiculously helpful in igniting my passion for natural beauty and health. Last time I looked she didn’t have an upcoming Bali retreat but is running shorter Australian and Canadian retreats and Sessions. Check her out here: kristajane.com and listen to this interview for a delicious taste of this lady and learn why developing your intuition is super helpful.
Nikki Smith (nikkismith.net.au)
Nikki has 15 years’ experience working in career development and career change helping people to define the work they’re passionate about to create their best fit role. I did sessions with Nikki and most inspiring for me was being given permission to dream about the best job ever – such a fun thing to do, and you just never know what may come out of this exploration.
Find out more about your strengths
There are some online (some free) tools that can be helpful to use to reflect your uniqueness and strengths back to yourself.
If you can’t think of anything worse than being put in a box, skip this step. Or proceed with a good dose of caution.
The Gallup Strengths Finder
Strengths Finder can be an interesting take on your top five strengths (or more if you want to fork out for it, but I’d go with five)! It’s an online tool that you buy a ‘token’ for and take the test. At first it can seem a little odd, and while of course we don’t exist in a box, some of the strengths it highlights can be reaffirming. At first I wondered why I didn’t get some strengths such as Communication while I got others including Empath, Individualization, Input and Learner. I wondered if I was off track with my passion for health and coaching others. Drilling down into these strengths I saw what value they are and why they are in fact perfect ingredients for what I love doing – supporting people to be their best selves and working with groups to create harmony. I find it easy to get to know people and for them to feel comfortable with me which is great in a coaching business. I thoroughly enjoy researching new information, understanding my clients better and deeper, and seeing the individual strengths of each of my clients (and also see where some of their challenges might lay)!
Personality profile – The Myers Briggs test.
This is another ‘put in a box’ type tool but it’s quite fun and can shed light on your natural inclinations which we often overlook. See that’s the thing, often the things we are naturally good at can also be our greatest gifts (but that doesn’t mean we have to do them in our work/purpose – it’s our choice).
My favourite online version is this one: http://www.16personalities.com
In case you’re interested, I’m an ENFP.
Do what you love and the rest will follow!
This is huge. We’ve been told so often that we have to help people in order to be valuable. But what if just being and doing the things you loved most is in fact the way to help most people. You know how your own energy changes when you’re around someone in love with life? That’s what I’m talking about. It’s a change in vibration. A turn on – literally.
Along this theme of doing what you love, listen to this great interview with Big Magic author Elizabeth Glibert Grant. Rebecca Campbell’s book Light is the new black also speaks to this concept.
But what if you don’t know what you love?
Stuck wondering what it is you love? Another great tip another mentor gave me, and I highly recommend for my clients, is to write down at least twenty things you love and do at least one every single day. They can be simple, like being in nature, singing, cooking, smelling flowers, talking to strangers, deep conversations, looking at the stars, shopping, painting, film, art opening, great conversation etc. Keep a diary or a note on your phone and start compiling your list of go to’s when things aren’t looking so peppy! PS This really helped me get into my love flow which helped me bring a man into my life too!
Surround yourself with people who believe in you
I think this is so true! The people we spend the most time with can have a huge impact on who we are in the world, what we think about ourselves and our self-esteem.
Take a quick snap shot of the people in your life right now – do they believe in you and your dreams? If not it might be a good time to open up room for other people who believe in you and your dreams. Having a coach or mentor can be really useful if you need extra support in this area. There are many wonderful coaches out there and if you resonate with me I’d love to support you too.
And by the way…
‘Your purpose has nothing to do with what you do…. Your purpose is actually quite simple, it’s to awaken…Your passion, your …mission, your job, your love-fueled hobby…are powerful and very worthy, but they’re not your purpose. Your purpose is much, much bigger than that. – Kris Carr
Let me end by also saying that this post is as much for me as it is for you! I think it’s an ongoing one as we nudge ever closer to be in alignment with our true nature and move along a continuum as we shift to changing circumstances.
I’d love to know what you think and if you have any tips or ideas to share, please share them below.
With love, Angela